A tale from 2ch of girls, emails, and hamsters. (Posts from the thread-starter are labeled #OP, the people replying to him are labeled #2ch.)
There’s this girl I’ve had feelings for since high school, and now we’re in college together. We’ll call her Denko.
Once we hit second year, we went out drinking, and I worked up the courage to exchange numbers.
We started out talking often, but she hasn’t answered me in three days now.
I’m getting depressed just thinking that Denko might be sick, or that something happened to her… (´･ω･`)
Please, somebody give me some advice.
SHE DOESN’T LIKE YOU.
GIVE IT UP.
oh my god
OH MY FODdOGD
2ch is so flawless oh my god
HOPY SHIT OP IS FUCKING PATHETIC
Good lord, over 600 emails? And then he actually translates “stop emailing me” as “okay we’re dating”??
Denko, I know you may not want to marry me yet, but please, go out with me!
UGH. I hate guys like this.
Don’t talk about how much you’re ~in love~ with someone if you’re going to disrespect their choices and decisions and the fact that they may, in fact, have their own free will. How can you complain about being friend zone’d if all you really want to do is get in their pants? You’re not even a friend - you don’t even know them, much less claim to be in love with them.
And it’s just naive and even insulting to think that whatever relationship may be/could be revolves all around you, or that even if they’re not interested that you can ~make them~ fall in love with you. That’s not love at all. Stop treating the idea of love with rose colored glasses, stop feeding it with the idea of sunshine and rainbows and cliche’d chick flicks and ideas of happily ever afters. Stop glossing over the idea that “your perfect person” won’t ever disagree with you, and will just float along to whatever you want, like some kind of puppet who exists just only to make you happy. What kind of idea of love is that, anyways? Because it isn’t. Relationships are a two way street, and you can’t have a good relationship of any kind, much less a lasting romantic relationship if you can’t respect that the other person is actually a person.
^ Just. Beyond true.
What really makes it worse, though, is the majority of the 2ch posters encouraging this sickening behavior. Never mind that they were probably posting such ‘advice’ with sarcasm and malice - the OP probably wouldn’t be able to sense it anyway. They viewed the OP’s ‘problem’ as if it were a silly little game, as if the OP and Denko were some mindless, fictional characters and that their actions wouldn’t have any repercussions anyway.
But that’s far from true.
I can’t sympathize with the OP at all - his frightening behavior and his ignoring of the few sensible comments to STOP remove him far, far from my sympathy. But I simply can’t ignore that it’s not solely the OP’s fault. It’s every (personally involved) human being in this damned, horrifying, and slow descent into what’s probably Denko’s nightmare. What about the OP’s family? Did no one ever stop to consider what kind of person OP was becoming? Did no one ever notice his obsession where someone normal (I use this term loosely) would have just interest?
Even if the OP is a troll, this actually happens to people! If this is the reaction to this kind of situation, I’m seriously disgusted. It’s terrifying to think that this situation happens all too frequently to people (and damn, I’m sorry!).
And to know that I have the same birthday as this Denko… *shivers*